Difficulty in moving from the "A" of ACT to the "C"

I have posted to the public list-serve on this topic. I'm also interested in any responses from here if this is an appropriate forum.

To whit: As a patient in therapy working for five months with ACT, my greatest difficulty so far has been with moving from stage 1 of ACT (the practice of defusion, mindfulness, acceptance, and willingness) to stage 2 (the progressive adding-in of values, commitments, and pattern-smashing). Basically I am treading water at this point, which seems like a bad idea as it could reinforce the wrong things.

The book by Hayes, Strosahl, and Wilson warns that this is a tough transition, and that clients with long-standing issues such as chronic depression are in real danger of stalling out here - "many actions are started, few are maintained." This certainly describes me.

My therapist has not worked with me in going through all the valued domains; we've focused on defining values in just a few key areas. Predictably I find the thought of actually going after these values terrifying. There must be a way to approach this that doesn't involve the first jump feeling like it's off a cliff - where's that paperback book or piece of paper when you need it? My therapist has not suggested a structured program of increasing exposure or small steps first - he's much more lassez-faire than that. Everything is very informal - but somehow I feel what I need is formal assistance, a trackable structure to build on, etc. Even though I'm a reasonably bright guy, setting up a behavior mod program on my own has defeated me so far. I'm not just trying to lose weight or get rid of a phobia.

The workbook suggests setting up simple programs of graded exposures, commitments, etc. - but I run into the same problem: I don't really know where to begin, and so I don't begin at all. Meanwhile my values begin to feel like so much hot air - similar to the many ambitious projects I have started in the past, but then dropped.

Obviously this is all subjective and predictable - but I doubt I'm the only person out there struggling to make this transition from A to C. Comments on the public list-serve (where I have posted a similar message on this theme) suggest to me that many of us can manage the defusion exercises easily enough, but after that we spend an awful lot of time getting nowhere in terms of behavior change. The usual response on the list-serve is to tell each other to be patient - but I think that's only because we don't know what else to do.

Are there any additional resources to help individuals working either alone or with a therapist in setting up a commitment/behavior change program, other than those described in the workbook? Are there any plans to develop such resources? It seems like this is a potential sticking point ... yet for ACT to have succeed as it has, many people must have managed it. I just don't know how.