Universality of valuing?
Emergence of a direction to value seems to arise from a no-word place since it is brought to awareness like crystal-clear evidence or obvious choosing.
Indeed, it could be difficult to get this flowing evidence of direction (non-obstructed by words) without a quiet mind. You kind of need to shut the radiohead to listen around. Then, you put words on this evidence (implicit cognitions), you define it and act according to it. You could also choose to not go for it (scared to be hurt, to be overwhelmed, to be judged, etc.). You could also act in a way, going in a direction (argyle socks metaphore) and nobody could say that you don't have that value by watching you.
But I am more talking about this faithful relationship to yourself, the you-to-you kind of commitment. I wonder how it could be hard to have this direct access with all the self as content in the way.
I read the fruitful forum question "where do personal values come from?" from Louise Kronstrand. It seems that values are from interactions of the three selves (content, process, context) which what I would say comes after the glimpse of evidence.
But concerning this glimpse of evidence, is there any information of possible links between clear emergence of a direction originating from self as context, which might draw us to possibility of the Universality of valuing?
Silence, nest of values?
Might be handy to clarify usefulness of self as context for valuing.....not as an intellectual correspondance to a model.....but as how it could be helpful to be connected to self as context in therapeutic intervention to get direct access to values.
Could it be that exploring values from self as context reduces fishing values with words (questionnaires or questions).
Obviously, I do not trust words at all!
So easy to be trapped by false values appearing to be true ones by words...... and all those reinforcement/ punishing conditioning all around to implicitly dictate our cognitions, how to make the selection?
One place possible maybe..... the HIATUS in between two sentences, THE SILENCE
"To be full in silence with someone" could be the value of love, by experiencing it, it reveals itself...
What an artfull skill (not easy though!) to let silence as the context of emergence of values...... coming from inside-out instead of outside- in.
Where do we have the chance to stay still into silence, feeling life flowing inside and leading us where to go?..... maybe that could be where values nest...
and if therapy could use silence as a therapeutic tool for values?